Codependency Was Part Of My Life

I developed some unhealthy habits due to trauma, and one of the most significant was my tendency towards codependency.

Putting his needs before my own, I realized I was codependent.

When others pointed out that I was in a one-sided relationship, I was still codependent.

When my life revolved entirely around him and I lost my sense of self just to keep him in my life, I was codependent.

And when I had no understanding of how to love myself or others, I was codependent.

It took time andreflection to recognize the patterns that held me captive. I began to see how my self-worth was tied to the approval and validation of others, particularly in relationships. The realization was a turning point—a moment of clarity that opened the door to healing and self-discovery.

I reclaim my identity, learning to prioritize my needs and desires. This path was not easy; it required me to confront long-held beliefs and challenge the narratives I had internalized about love and worthiness. I sought support through therapy and surrounded myself with people who encouraged my growth and celebrated my progress.

Through this journey, I discovered the importance of setting boundaries and the power of saying no. I began to understand that loving myself meant respecting my own feelings and desires, rather than sacrificing them for the sake of someone else. I learned that true love is not about losing yourself in someone else, but about building a partnership where both can thrive.

As I continue to heal, I embrace the freedom that comes with self-love and independence. I am learning to trust myself and my instincts, knowing that I am worthy of love and respect just as I am. This journey has taught me that I am enough, and that I have the strength to create a life that aligns with my true self.